The sentence which is often inappropriately used is most probably “I love you.” It has the capacity to generate so many emotions that it may blind the logic & intelligence of a person. Indeed, it is a magical event to fall in love as the state of the mind cannot be described. In the spiritual realm, it is stated that “Love is God and Love is All.” It is a profound description of a word which ancient & modern psychoanalysts have failed to understand. Love is both a simple & complex phenomenon. This feeling is the best you can have as it is so enrapturing.

But do we really love? Or are we under the influence of charm, seduction, affection, infatuation, passion & attraction? Basically, we could say that love is a mixture of all these feelings. But this is not the case. There are different kinds of love & also different degrees of love. But the most important & powerful love is unconditional love- that is to love without consideration of the body & any material considerations, and to love without having any expectations or waiting for any gratifications. This is actually the domain of divine love. To love like God loves us, by closing eyes on all flaws & imperfections, by forgiving, by respecting, helping and trusting is a difficult task for all of us. Some people come close to it and enjoy a happy togetherness.

The remaining of us go through ups & downs as love is not a constant in the real world- it faces a great deal of challenges especially in a world of inter-connectivity by the Internet & social media. The main reason for the downs in all love affairs is attachment or over-attachment to the partner. Attachment is not love; it is in fact a major cause of suffering. It is a bonding whereas love is freedom. It is also the possessive & jealous nature of the relationship by saying “I am yours, you are mine.” Possession is dangerous & implies control of the other; and to be in control does not mean love!

To be able to love at its highest potential, it is detachment which must be practiced. But as soon as you practice detachment in a relationship, you will hear the words “You don’t love me anymore,” or “You are seeing somebody else.” This happens due to fear & mistrust- two perfect ingredients to spoil a relationship. Two lovers might want to spend maximum time together without giving enough space to each other so as to spend more splendid moments together. This is where the mistake lies. Wanting to have more & more is a big risk of losing it as nature does not support any kind of excess & exaggerations.

Love is a feeling. You don’t need to hear “I love you” to realise someone loves you. If you are mature enough, you will see it in the eyes & all the actions of the lover. True love is found in actions, not in I love you notes, emojis, etc. True love cannot be static, it has to be shown in actions. That is the way you know someone loves you. Love cannot hurt either. Love is not about revenge & malicious manipulations- these are evil in actions. To be loving, you must love yourself first and love the God who has created you. And how do we love God? Simply by loving everything he has created. And the best advice I can give you is that if you cannot love anymore, just don’t hate- it will put you in a destructive mode.